Integrity & the Mean GIRLS

We have been discussing integrity at our house this week.   Mean girls lack integrity.

I was reminded of a couple of girls from high school.     I can't call them ladies....so I will refer to them as D&B.   They constantly gave me their "stink-eye" and were always rude.   They were never nice nor did they treat me like a human in the same room.  To this day.........  I've tried to forgive and add them on FB as a friend.   We live in different parts of the United States.  They never accepted my request.   Forgiveness is their loss now.  Am I hurt?  NO.  Do I care?  NO.     D&B don't have integrity.   STILL.

Did I mention there were only 13 girls in my graduating class?  Maybe it was 12.  I can't remember.

I find people like that amusing.  Why do they bother?  What makes them tick?   I think it stems from a lack of self-esteem and jealousy.   We could blame their parents  for giving them too much attention and never punishing for their misbehavior.  Maybe they haven't gotten enough positive attention or guidance.  Again, the parents fault.  Either way, the world continually suffers from their issues.

I  (hopefully!) have raised my girls to have integrity.  I want them to ignore the "mean girls" and not give them any glory or attention to the given behavior.    Yes, be as nice as you possibly can.    Keep it honest, real & upfront.  Keep yourself away from their useless drama.  


My moral of this story......  Mean girls will always be that.  MEAN.  The rest of us grow up.

Gaming.. my thoughts.

Someone asked me recently how I felt about video games.   I have been known to play a few of them.  I love playing Candy Crush.  It gives me a minute of brain-crushing distraction.     

Video games can be fun.  They can be somewhat entertaining.  The complexity of what can be done with a digital format is mind-boggling & I  enjoy seeing the graphics.

I don't, however, support gaming to the point of doing anything else.   There are so many other things we can be doing....reading, exercising,  praying,  seeking God's word,  finding a new hobby......   maybe cooking a fancy new dish?,  quality time with the family or friends.    Gaming can be a huge distraction to our regular lives.   Gaming shouldn't ever be our lives.   It is in the same category as continuous texting........ learn to communicate verbally.  It is a good thing.

Gaming shouldn't take precedence over the real world.  EVER.  Enough said.  

Black Eyed Dip….A new year with a new tradition.

Typically, every New Years I have to make Texas Cavier.  It is delicious and I crave it often.   It contains black eyed peas.  Those little guys are a must on New Years Day.   I have to thank the lovely M.M. for getting me hooked on making it.  (Hey…M.M.  I have missed talking to you!!)

I had every intention of making it this year…… until I saw this recipe on Ree's site.  I noticed that cheese was involved.  She had me at "cheese" friends.   You can count me in for just about anything that involves cheese.   Cheese is like bacon…….it just makes the world a better place.

Black-Eyed Dip

1 can of Black-eyed peas, drained and mushed a little bit
1/4  onion, diced
1/4 cup sour cream
8 slices of jalapeños, or more if you love them like I do
1 cup  cheddar cheese, shredded
3 Tablespoons salsa
hot sauce to taste

Mix together & bake @ 350 for about 25 minutes.  Serve with scoop chips.


Note: if you are planning on feeding a crowd…..double this.


And one last thought…. smear the cold remains on a cracker the next day for breakfast.  Delish!